For the most part we understand that our purpose is found in serving others. Our lives are too small to devote our time to and find any real purpose. The times of our greatest sense of significance have always come when we have reached out and touched the life of another person for good. It doesn't matter if you are a Christ-Follower or not this simple truth is true: significance is found in helping others.
What does seem contradictory to us is that we can find healing and wholeness in giving our lives away. Conventional wisdom would seem to tell us that we need to take care of ourselves first before we can take care of someone else. Aren't we told that we need to love ourselves before we can truly love others? Once again we see the paradoxical nature of the Gospel. Wholeness is found in giving ourselves away. Healing is found in serving others.
We are broken, not because of sin, but because damaged relationships. We have a damaged relationship with God which leads to a damaged relationship with other people. Since we were created to live in relationships to have those relationships damaged means we cannot be the people God created us to be. A lack of healthy relationships leads to broken and sick people.
So how do we build relationships? It begins with reach out to people in love. God has already taken the initiative to have a relationship with us, so our response is that we must trust Him. Our trusting God and our reaching out to others in love are really the same thing. Jesus told us that when we loved other people, when we served the needy, we are loving and serving Him. This experience of reaching out to people builds and strengths our relationships, especially our relationship with God. Wholeness and healing are the products our positive loving relationships in our lives.
Now I don't what to make it seems that there is not a need for professional help: counseling, medicine, etc. There are certain issues and hearts which need the added care of professional experience. Yet that will never be the sole answer. The path to healing always includes reaching out to others in love.
Personally the times I have experienced the greatest healing is when I removed the focus from my pain and started to care for others. Sometimes it has been as simple as praying for others and other times it has involved becoming an intimate part of another person's life. Whenever we show concern for others we stop being so concerned about ourselves allow our heart time to heal as we experience God's love in our lives. God's love is made most real to us when we are showing love to others.
Here is the thought I would like you to remember: Wholeness is found in giving ourselves away.