In my life I have set-aside three times during the day to pray. The first time of prayer is in the morning after I have done my devotional reading for the day. At this time I pray for the day that is before me and for my family, lifting each one up to God by name. The second time of prayer is when I go home for lunch. At this time of prayer I pray for people and organizations that God has put upon on my heart. The third time of prayer is right before bed. At this time of prayer I pray for the Storm Lake Church of Christ and my ministry in this community.
During each time of prayer I say a prayer for my wife. I do this for two reasons. The first reason is to lay her life in the hands of God, teaching myself to trust Him to guide and protect her life. The second reason is to help my heart form an attachment to her, even though we are apart. I need to be constantly reminded that what I do right now will eventually effect her as well.
In the morning this is what I pray for my wife:
Heavenly Father I ask that you will bless my wife’s life this day. Bless her work, may she be productive and may it be helpful to people. Bless her home, may it be a place of rest and a refuge from the world. Bless her study, may she come to know Your truth more deeply. Bless her play, may she be able to enjoy the pleasures of this world and find rest and relaxation in Your goodness. Bless her worship, may it be a time of intimate connection with You. Bless her ministry, may it provide hope and encouragement to other people.
Lord, I ask that You will clothe her with Your armor this day so she is able to stand firm against the attacks of the enemy. Put the belt of truth around her waist so she will live a life of integrity. Put upon her the breastplate of righteousness and enable her to do the good works that You have planned for her to do. Slip on her feet the shoes of the gospel of peace which will enable her to stand firm because she knows she has been reconciled to You, but will also give her the willingness to share this Good News with people who need to hear it. Put in her hand the shield of faith and give her the knowledge and experiences she needs to use this shield effectively. May her faith prove to be a formidable barrier against the attacks of the enemy. Put upon her head the helmet of salvation which will give her confidence and hope in the life, death, and resurrection of Christ Jesus, so she knows that her life is secure in Him no matter what happens in her life. Train her in the use of the sword of the spirit, which is Your Word, so she is able to use it correctly and gently to convict her heart, as well as the hearts of others, with Your truth.
In the afternoon this is what I pray for my wife:
Heavenly Father I ask that You will use my wife to be a beacon of hope, love, and faith in this dark world. May her life burn brightly for You.
Lord God fill her with a knowledge of Your will and with spiritual wisdom and understanding so that she will live a life that honors Christ Jesus (adapted from Colossians 1:9, 10). Help her to lay down roots into Him so that He will be her source of life (adapted from Colossians 2:7).
In the evening this is what I pray for my wife:
Dear God, Creator of heaven and earth, I ask that You will watch over my wife tonight. Grant her sweet dreams and provide her with a restful night sleep so she is able to arise to the challenges that await for her tomorrow.
Lord, You are her shepherd; provide for her what she needs. Lead her to places of rest and restoration that will renew her strength and restore her soul. Guide her along paths of righteousness so she will bring honor to Your name. Comfort her in the dark, depressed, and tragic times of life so she will come to know You as her Loving Heavenly Father. Bless her life so she can be a blessing to others. Love her and teach me to love her.
There is more that I pray around these themes, such as giving us a shared passion for ministry and to help us use this time of singleness to prepare for marriage. I share these thoughts with you in the hopes that they might spur you on in praying for your wife. We need to start moving beyond good intentions to actual action, because an intended prayer is worth nothing, but a prayer prayed makes all the difference.