"I say again, God will bless you. You have been praying for blessing. But do remember, there must be absolute surrender. At every tea-table you see it. Why is tea poured into that cup? Because it is empty, and given up for the tea. But put ink, or vinegar, or wine into it, and will they pour tea into the vessel? And can God fill you, can God bless you, if you are not absolutely surrendered to him? He cannot. Let us believe God has wonderful blessings for us, if we will but stand up for God, and say, be it with trembling will, yet with a believing heart: 'O God, I accept thy demands. I am thine and all that I have. Absolute surrender is what my soul yields to thee by divine grace.'
"You may not have such strong clear feeling of deliverances as you would desire to have, but humble yourselves in his sight, and acknowledge that you have grieved the Holy Spirit by your self-will, self-confidence, and self-effort. Bow humbly before him in the confession of that, and ask him to break the heart and to bring you into the dust before him. Then, as you bow before him, just accept God's teaching that in your flesh 'there dwelleth no good thing,' [Rom. 7:18] and that nothing will help you except another life which must come in. You must deny self once for all. Denying self must every moment be the power of your life, and then Christ will come in and take possession of you...
"God the Father loves to give us the power of the Spirit. We have the Spirit of God dwelling within us. We come to God confessing that, and praising God for it, and yet confessing how we have grieved the Spirit. And then we bow our knees to the Father to ask that he would strengthen us with all might by the Spirit in the inner man, and that he would fill us with his mighty power. And as the Spirit reveals Christ to us, Christ comes to live in our hearts forever, and the self-life is cast out."
Andrew Murray, Humility and Absolute Surrender, pp. 74-75