Saturday, July 14, 2012

Linkage: What's Wrong with Sex Before Marriage?

In a culture that emphasizes sex and devalues marriage it is politically incorrect to talk about why sex outside of marriage is wrong.  We have been told over and over again that sex is no big deal and that it is perfectly acceptable for consenting adults.

While I do believe that people are free to choose how they will live their life that doesn't mean that people should be free from the consequences of those choices.  People can have sex outside of marriage, but that doesn't mean there will not be negative consequences associated with it.

Amy Orr-Ewing tackles this subject in this piece, "What's Wrong with Sex Before Marriage?", at

How on earth can you answer this question? It is the 21st century after all; surely God doesn't hate you enough to make you say something so ridiculous and old-fashioned that you will lose all your friends! In the gospels, Jesus was asked many difficult questions and he frequently responded with a question before answering more fully. He did this so often that I think we are probably meant to notice it and learn something. 
What is wrong with sex before marriage? How about: 'What is wrong with anything?' In other words, where do you get the moral code by which you live your life? There may be a whole number of different responses: 'I do what I feel is right' - my morals are entirely personal and arbitrary. Or 'society decides what is right and wrong' - laws are made and as long as I stick within them everything is OK. Or anything in between those two responses.

Continue reading What's Wrong with Sex Before Marriage?

How would you respond to that question?


LCannon said...

sex is a very sacred thing; one should save himself or herself for the partner they would like to share their lives with and make the commitment to do so - power of prayer can help each of us with important decisions. Let's hope that sharing our bodies in such a intimate way is something that we value as an important decision

Paul Steele said...

I agree. It is an important decision, one that we need to invite God into. When we cheapen sex, as our culture has done, then it is easy to go with instinct or when it feels right, rather than following God's standard.

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