At times it is easier to live in a fantasy world than it is in reality. This is especially true if real life is unappealing in a certain area. I think this is why people day dream about relationships. It is easy to create the perfect relationship in you mind, and so if you are missing out on a relationship or your relationship is less than perfect you can escape to the land of fantasy.
While there is nothing wrong with a little daydreaming, these fantasies can be hazardous to our real relationships. We need to avoid them as best we can.
I used to follow Rebecca St. James on Facebook. Besides being a well known Christian singer, Rebecca St. James has also been a loud voice in the True Love Waits campaign. Being single for much of her life, before getting married in April of 2011, added credibility to her message.
One thing about being a celebrity, even a minor one like Rebecca St. James, is that people think that they know you because they have been able to see glimpses of your life through articles, interviews, and even your performances. The result is that some guys would fall in love with the image of Rebecca they had created in their minds. Then they would write their declarations of love for her on her Facebook page.
When I read these public declarations of love I couldn’t help but think about a scene from The Lord of the Rings: The Return of the King. In the scene Aragorn, the heir to the throne of Gondor prepares to take a perilous journey under the mountain to enlist the of the army that resides there. As he prepares to leave the Riders of Rohan, with whom he has been traveling, Éowyn, the princess of Rohan, comes to plead for him to stay with them.
Aragorn asks her why she has come. She looks shocked and hurt, and says, “Don’t you know?” There is a pause as realization comes over Aragorn’s face and he replies; “It is but a shadow and a thought that you love. I cannot give you what you seek.”
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